Wisdom Workout


A Sanity Assessment

By Susan McNeal Velasquez

Happy New Year 2019! Many of us have given up on the tradition of New Year’s resolutions because of the all-too-common experience that they end up forgotten by the second week of January.

Instead, let’s talk about how we can expand our vision to create new opportunities that will enhance the lives we already have.

Knowing where you are is the first step in making new decisions. Self-honesty might not be sexy, but it is crucial to your sanity.

Most of us make our decisions based on what we like or don’t like. If we like something, we go after it and we try to avoid what we don’t like.

The “I like it/I don’t like it” approach will keep you stuck in living a small, predictable life that can easily become stagnant and rigid. Why? The only way you know beforehand what you like or don’t like is because you’ve already had that experience. Therefore, making your decisions based solely on your personal likes or dislikes stops you from attracting new creative and innovative opportunities.

Nothing new can find you. You will stop the wonder and delight that comes through unanticipated experiences that arrive unannounced, only if we make room for them. The true gifts of the Universe come wrapped in light and love. Openness and acceptance of new experiences requires trust in the basic expansion that is available to us when we realize that life wants a partner and what we are seeking is also seeking us. We don’t have to have all the answers or accomplish everything by ourselves.

So, the first part of the formula to broaden your self-assessment is to decide if you are ready to transform what isn’t working.

If your answer is yes, here is the next question. Are you willing to create a life that works? Wanting what isn’t working to go away is one part and being willing to create what does work requires another yes.

Everyone wants a life that works. Many people wish, dream, long for, grasp at, demand, command, lust after, and suffer over their current situations.

What works is to commit your will, your willingness, and your willpower, to the business of living your life to the fullest. Will you soften your heart, open your mind, uplift your spirit, un-numb, defrost, and live life as though you’ve never been hurt? It isn’t necessary to know how to do that at this point.

If your answer is yes, continue. If you are hesitant to say yes, ask a few more questions. Are you stuck in blaming or resenting someone that has hurt you? Are you drowning, going down for the third time, and are still unwilling or unable to call out for help?

Are you currently stuck in disappointment that keeps you from letting your heart and soul participate fully? Did you squelch hurt feelings, cut off your tears or cut short your grieving and now your sad is stuck and really mad? Are you waiting for someone else to figure you out, or are you demanding that you become perfect before you can be happy? Are you holding an unrealistic picture of what a successful life is?

If you are willing to answer any of these questions sincerely, you might be able to get unstuck and start moving again. Remember, no one ever feels 100 percent able when confronting hard situations. Lighten up on yourself. Ask for guidance, internal and external, take the first steps, and let go of having to have all the answers right now.

Be willing to ask for inner inspiration about what is the right action for you at this very moment and open to external help by asking for what you need, even though it is uncomfortable.

Your intuitive guidance can soothe and smooth the journey, if you will allow yourself to let go, let down, and do whatever is necessary to become ready, willing and able to receive new ways of learning to thrive.


Susan is a local author of “Beyond Intellect: Journey Into the Wisdom of Your Intuitive Mind.” Learn more at www.susanvelasquez.com.


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