Opinion: Racism in Laguna Beach – First the Bad, Then the Good


By Melissa Juniper Harris

I would like to think it was a food delivery mistake, that at midnight when there was repeated banging on our door that woke and frightened us, that it was just someone delivering food to the wrong address.   

But it is hard to not question if you are actually a racist who saw my African American husband and thought that it would be appropriate to leave fried chicken on our doorstep to let us know we are not welcome.   

If this is the case, my heart goes out to you. I have deep compassion for you and how hard it must be to carry the burden of hate necessary to justify your actions. I know that if I had your experiences, your relationships, your genetics, your life, I would be you—full of fear, the very kind that feeds and justifies racism.   

And this part of you, the fear part, I completely understand. 

You see, I was home alone with just our children when it sounded like you were going to break through our door. I was watching from our stairway window when your car sped away down our otherwise quiet street. 

The sun is now up, but I haven’t slept at all. I spent the night in fear, checking doors and windows after I had finally calmed our barking dog and reassured my daughter everything was OK, that I would keep our family safe. I held my phone with 911 ready to dial, afraid that if I dozed off I would break my promise. I spent the night constantly questioning if I was over or under-reacting, trying to assess the danger of the situation. 

At the time, I didn’t know about the fried chicken. 

This isn’t the first time our house has been targeted as a protest that we live here, in a privileged white neighborhood in a privileged white beach town. This house has been vandalized before.  At first, I didn’t identify it as racism. But the longer I experience life married to a Black man, the harder it is for me to have generous assumptions about people’s motivations—like the possibility of fried chicken being a delivery mistake or vandalism being a random teen prank.   

Although I desperately want to believe the kinder storylines about my species, the only way to change our world is to first accept reality just as it is. We can’t fix what we deny is happening.   

When my husband drives in his car or walks down the street, people watch him. Although our town tends to be very open-minded and accepting, it lacks diversity. As a Black man, he stands out. Because it is an expensive place to live, it is no shock there are few minorities that live here.   

Systematic racism exists and functions even in towns where people are nice.   

Beyond minorities having access to less resources in general—making it harder to afford the mansions that fill the beachfront streets and neighborhoods—there is still housing discrimination going on today. This includes the kinds of loans offered and the places real estate agents will even show to minorities. 

Once, I went to visit my husband’s beach house before we were married and I noticed the only photos displayed were the few he had of me and my white family. He typically had many photos of his own family throughout the house. They were all taken down. I asked him why, and eventually he told me. I could hear the sadness in his voice.

He was getting the house refinanced and had to get it appraised. The process requires three different appraisers to come to the house and then it gets refinanced based on adding the three values up and dividing it by three. It is common for there to be small discrepancies between the three independent appraisers. However, when the first appraiser showed up and saw my husband leaving the house, and then saw his home filled with African American faces smiling in family photos, he valued it at $650,000 less than the Zillow estimate.

My husband explained to me that if a Black person lives in a house, it is automatically worth less. He had his Realtor go in and stage the house to make it look like a white family, my family, lived there. Sure enough, the two appraisers that came after it had been whitewashed matched the Zillow estimate almost exactly.

He was choked up when he said, “I really thought we were over this. But every house I have ever sold, I have had to make it look like white people live there. The assumption is, if a Black person can afford it, it must not be worth as much. It doesn’t matter how many degrees I have or how financially successful I am, I’m still Black and I’m still punished for it.”   

For years he has been sad and hurt but not surprised with the kinds of discrimination and micro-aggressions he and others are forced to endure. I could see his disappointment in believing for a brief moment the world had improved.   

In the beginning, he asked that I not tell anyone. He must have sensed my first thought was we should tell everyone! Everyone needs to know. This has to be fixed. This isn’t right! And then, with a sudden rock in my gut, my white privileged-self realized what he already understood.   

People already know.   

There have been marches, and movements, and laws, and news coverage about the disturbing inequality in our country. How would this story make the picture of racism any clearer? This was a papercut compared to the innocent unarmed African Americans that are gunned down and killed by citizens and police officers. 

If horrific unquestionable acts of racism won’t motivate the necessary revolution of equality to happen in our country, what can your fried chicken do?

It is now the afternoon. I am still tired. I still haven’t decided what to do. I still haven’t told anyone. 

My teenage son has an appointment and so we are driving in the car. He tells me about his history class in school. His teacher told the students how little racism exists in our town. My son, who absolutely hates speaking in class, knew he had to speak up. It’s the keepers of the silence that must be vulnerable and brave to change the narrative. 

When there is a discrepancy between what is spoken and what is unsaid, the truth lies in the silence. And the only way to make them congruent is to really listen and then to speak up. My son felt people needed to understand racism isn’t a thing of the past or something that only happens in other, less progressive towns. 

It is the hundreds of small stories that go untold leaving the picture of racism incomplete. It’s the stories that are embarrassing, hurtful, and sometimes ambiguous, like the fried chicken.   

When we got home, I thought of my son’s courage, and I knew what I needed to do. I called the non-emergency police number. I told the officer how reluctant I was to call. I knew knocking on a door wasn’t illegal, nor was fried chicken. More so, I knew calling meant I had to tell my husband, and I wanted desperately to shield him from the hate of the world, at least in our own home. The officer said he would come out the next day to finish the report. 

My husband and I can hear the police vehicle come to a stop in front of our house. We decide to walk outside and meet the officer to finish the report.   

When we get outside, we see an officer walking toward us with an orchid in his hand. From far away he says, “We come bearing gifts.” Two other officers soon join him. 

My eyes start tearing up. So do my husband’s.

They told us how deeply upset they were, how personal it felt to have this happen in the community they vowed to protect and serve. The officers said they wanted us to know how grateful they are to have us living here, how important we are to our community, that we are not alone, and that love is bigger.

I could feel the personal stories of generations of racism falling in the tears of my husband as the officer handed him the flowers and card.   

I know these police officers don’t make the entire world right, or even our small town. But they show the impact that is possible when we act from a place of love and common humanity. They highlight those who are working and creating the better world we talk and dream about.   

We stayed outside talking for almost an hour. I took a photo of my husband and the officers standing by the front door under our huge rainbow pride flag. I thought about the English adage, “A picture is worth a thousand words,” and thought, with everything going on in our world right now, this photo has to be worth at least a million.

When we got inside, we opened the card which read, “We are with you.”

I have yet to read four words that contain more compassion, support, and love. What the police force did was transformative. They took the ugly of the world and made it beautiful. So ask me again what your fried chicken can do?

Melissa is a Laguna Beach resident.

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  1. I am so sorry your family went through this yet I am thrilled with the reaction from the police department.

  2. Your son is such a hero here… As are all of you for standing up for what is right. I lived here 13 years ago and never saw a black person I was hesitant to move back because of the lack of diversity but I have seen a tiny bit more than before and was encouraged by the change. Thank you for sharing your personal story and your light Melissa!

  3. Wow! My husband and I bought a house in Laguna Niguel in 2004. The sellers were an African American family with pictures of their family in the house. We never even considered anything about that, just that the house was clean and obviously well cared for. We are white and moved to CA from Texas.

  4. Beautifully written, authentic and heartfelt. So touched by your courage to speak up and share the pain and the magic that transforms ignorance and fear/hatred into a teaching and touching moment for us all. Thank you.

  5. Your article made me cry. I’m so sorry that you and your family experienced this.
    How sad that bigotry exists. Unfortunately, in one way or another, we all experience it.
    When my daughter was in middle school, she made a list of all they ways she was in a minority. The list was 3 pages long. The first step in the cure is awareness. You’ve done this for us. Thank you for your courage.

  6. I am so sorry these people frightened you and your children.I’m so sorry your husband has to navigate many inequalities, such as making his house look like a white family live there to get a fair market value. Your article is powerful Mel, thank you for your sons courage in sharing his real racism experiences with his peers and thank you sharing this article.
    Relieved to hear our community police made such a positive impact and responded with love and humanity. You are not alone.
    We are with you.

  7. Thank you for having the courage to tell your family’s story. I agree: the untold stories leave us with an incomplete picture of our idyllic Laguna Beach – yes, even here, in our own magical little town, racism exits. I am sorry you had to fear for your safety in your own home. Echoing the sentiment of our police – I’m glad you’re here. Thank you and thank you to the police officers bearing gifts and representing what is right with the world.

  8. “When there is a discrepancy between what is spoken and what is unsaid, the truth lies in the silence. And the only way to make them congruent is to really listen and then to speak up.” — such wise words. Such a painful column to read. Having lived in Laguna on and off for over 60 years, I have NEVER been able to say we have no racism in our community. Latino, Black and Asian stand out for reasons you have stated – the predominance of white, which sadly is based in disparities in opportunities in income. Thank your son for speaking up, and thank you for such candid poignant honesty. My optimism is rattled. I’m so sorry you and your family have been targeted. My heart reaches out to you.

  9. I love this article so much…for what it shows about the good in some people…and yet I don’t want to spoil the feeling by saying I despise so many people in this town for the inhumanly racist qualities and behaviors she cites, but I do. It’s impossible to feel safe with so much insane, unjustified hatred close by, and in the hearts of so many we’ve always thought we could trust.

    Micro aggressions are real, aggression is real, hatred is real. And racism is very real, and such a normal part of Laguna Beach’s “idyllic” community. While some of us are people of color whose friends are predominantly white, because of where we’ve grown up and with whom we’ve socialized, now we get to learn that some of them are actually bigots who allow themselves to enjoy our company because they’ve given us a ‘pass.’ They accept us because we’ve assimilated, and we’re not like the ‘other’ ones. It’s an insult that literally transcends race.

    I know there are people out there who are reading this article and the comments here who think we’re being ridiculous, or misguided, or that we’re ‘blowing things out of proportion.’ Those people terrify me—because you cannot win with a crazy person. They’re old enough to know that all people are created equal, yet they choose not to believe it. They claim to speak for the good of all people, as long as those people look like them. And they hide behind catch-all phrases like “All lives matter” merely for the fact that they won’t bring themselves to agree that Black lives matter just as much as theirs, or even at all.

    If they’re going to generalize, then I will too. These people all have one thing in common: they twist all the logic out of common sense to create their own version of it. For them it’s a tool that allows them to deny, exclude and discriminate. There is no sense in it at all, only willful derangement. They’re what’s wrong with this world.

  10. My heart breaks reading this. We think we are immune but the sad reality is that racism – overt, hidden and systemic – lives in our beloved Laguna, like it does every where else. Until we reveal it like you just did, talk about it with our eyes open, and teaching our history honestly, this ugliness will continue to persist. I do have hope…I guess I have to for one of my sons and my granddaughter. It took courage for you and your son to come forward. Thank you with all my heart.

  11. Melissa, your thoughtfulness throughout this column is extraordinary. You and your son and your husband have all gone beyond your comfort zone to make this story and these personal experiences of racism known. Telling those personal stories is powerful. I am so sorry that you have had these experiences and I, among many others I know, very much welcome the diversity that you and your family bring to Laguna. I wish I could show that as compassionately as those police officers did.

  12. My thanks to Melissa Harris for having the courage to share her story of a malicious, repulsive act against her family and for the kind reaction of our police officers. While the thoughtful actions of our police don’t wash away the nastiness of the fried-chicken-troglodytes, her bearing witness through her story helps remind our community that racism is present even in what we would like to see as an open, inclusive, creative populace. May we all be as compassionate as Ms. Harris and as kind as the three police officers who came bearing gifts.

  13. “The only time to look down on people is when helping them to their feet.” Well, maybe not the exact quote, but I learned it from an autobiography, The Measure of a Man.

  14. What Mel is too humble to tell you is that her African American husband, Ron, a UCI professor and Dermatologist, has spent untold hours dedicated to global health initiatives including HIV and dermatology in Africa. Ironic, isn’t it? – A great man dedicated to making the world a better place and his sweet family is targeted by a small minded bigot. God help our town.

  15. Leslie, you sound as if your heart’s in the right place but I do have a question for you. Curious if Melissa gave you permission to share her husband’s information publicly? Perhaps she didn’t mention it to protect what little privacy her family will have coming out of this incident. Since this incident was targeted harassment, I’m not sure why you’d post where we works.

    But clearly you were trying to make a point, and I somewhat get it, but allow me to offer you an alternative take on it and how it resonated with me…beat with me…

    We’ve all undoubtedly heard the misguided argument that racism no longer exists because we have so many “great men” such as Ron, outstanding, tax paying, law abiding blacks who sit at the highest echelons of education, business, finance, athletics, and entertainment. As silly as this sounds, I’ve seen some very ‘distinguished’ people trying to make this argument when in reality, a cursory revist of news events over the past few years will clearly prove this notion to be specious at best.

    Even so, many of us (I’m black, btw) buy into the fallacy that achievement will bring about racial harmony and acceptance, particularly within traditionally white spaces. That is, until we come to the sobering realization that many within those spaces simply don’t want us there and will never want us there. Every black person has had this wake-up call at least once in their lives…I’ve had a few in Laguna Beach myself. So at the end of the day, you’ll have to forgive me for not seeing a point in effusing over his accomplishments when we can’t even get past the rudimentary acknowledgement of our basic humanity.

    I honestly don’t have much to sat about

  16. (I hit send too fast) I honestly don’t have much to say about the incident itself. I felt a bit of anger for Ron, and I definitely felt those tears. Kudos to those police officers. And I also applaud Michelle for her allyship. Unfortunately, these things happen more often than not, and I’ve gotten so used to hearing stories like this it’s numbing….I honestly vacillate between anger and finding humor in the pain.

    Rufino, everything you said was spot on. And I appreciate knowing that, based on all of these comments, there are good hearted people in Laguna Beach, because my experience in the city, while not as in your face as Michelle’s, hasn’t been welcoming.


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