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The Dynamics of Loss Many of us who live here are currently mourning the loss of Stu Saffer who was the original creator of the Laguna Beach Independent and who went on to create the successful on-line newspaper, Stu News Laguna. We are so fortunate here in Laguna Beach to have...

Rediscover the Magic   Have you lost your feeling of connection with yourself, your familial relationships or your friendships? If that is happening, what is the underlying cause? Yes, there could be many surface reasons. You could be disappointed, fatigued or bored. Maybe...

Emotional Etiquette   Do you have friends or relatives that you don’t like talking to because they interrupt, invalidate, shut you down, give you quick and useless bits of unsolicited advice and, to sum it all up, are lousy listeners, emotionally violating, aggressively...

Core Competence  A hallmark of personal competence is the ability to make discerning choices. Choosing well requires the mental work of uncovering, discovering and committing to taking right actions that represent our best efforts to resolve the issues that are demanding our...

Irish Eyes Are Smiling The cause of my happy eyes isn’t because of St Patrick’s Day this year. A few weeks ago, I discovered the book “The Power Behind Your Eyes.” It talks of the need to rest our eyes, taking periodic time outs from the task of looking, so that we...

Nothing Personal   Are you familiar with the term Machiavellianism? According to the Oxford English Dictionary, it is defined as “the employment of cunning and duplicity in state craft or general conduct.” In psychology, it is used to describe a person’s tendency to deceive and...

The Personal is Political  Carol Hanish’s essay written in 1970 questioned whether women’s consciousness-raising groups were a useful part of the political women’s movement. In the piece named “The Personal is Political” Hanish said that coming to a...

Editor, The opening of Christian O’Reilly’s “Chapatti,” at our Playhouse last Sunday (Jan. 15) was such a fulfilling experience, I have to give a shout out to everyone who loves great theatre. And it is right here. Make room in your schedule to see this poignant and heartwarming...

  Timely and Timeless   “Fate carries its own clock,” Pearl Bailey, “The Raw Pearl” (1968)    The first few weeks of the New Year have most of us frantically picking up the pieces of the lives that we unceremoniously dropped in favor of the holiday frenzy. When the world revolved...

Wisdom’s Secrets This election season has rocked the foundation of many of us. It is noteworthy how many have shared that they feel unhinged, unsettled and unnerved. Rather than being motivated to move forward, they have turned off the news, are unwilling to take in any more...

Taking Stock Since we are currently invited daily to swim in a cesspool of political negativity, let’s make a decision to take a deep breath and do something useful for our own clarity. We all have personal stories about our lives. Good stories. Bad stories. His-tory....

Imaginative Perception When we have a breakdown in our love relationships, our friendships or our familial ties, it often comes down to the loss of imaginative perception. We have lost the magic. Yes, there are reasons why the relationship isn’t working. If those reasons...

Chaotic Times There is nothing antiseptic or impersonal about politics. Each party is all about bipolar chaos. This transfers down to a societal climate of trying to make life appear normal even though the internal emotional experience for most of us is likely to feel crazy....

  The Price of Fame   Lately, I’ve been too busy to write. It has become difficult to accomplish much of anything because there are just too many requests for my attention. You might say that it sounds like I need to learn to establish clear boundaries that will keep me...

Ideas Rise From Multiple Perspectives   My consulting career brings me into the company of many individuals with strong values and points of view. During this highly charged political climate, I cannot in good conscience randomly express my preferences when I am serving as a...